<B>Dear Annie: </B>I've been with my boyfriend for eight years and find that I'm not as happy as I used to be. But we have a child together, which makes it harder to decide what to do.

For the past few years, I have been talking to another man. Nothing has happened between us, but we are very attracted to each other. We hang out occasionally, and I can't stop thinking about him. He has a child with his live-in girlfriend, so he's in the same position as I am.

I don't know what to do. My relationship is bumpy and stressful, but I have a hard time leaving.

<B>Vermont</B>

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Dear Vermont:</B> You have a commitment not only to your boyfriend, but to your child. It means you don't behave selfishly and rashly, or in ways that will hurt them. Being attracted to someone else is not unusual, but acting on those feelings puts you in the wrong.