<B>Dear Annie:</B> I'm a college student and only get to see my long-distance boyfriend once every four or five weeks. We've been dating for more than 18 months. Assuming we stay together through grad school, we will have dated longer than six years before we have the chance to live together.

Since I haven't spent all that much time with him, my biggest fear is that we won't get along once we settle down. So far, the longest stretch of time we've spent in each other's company is six days. What if, by the time graduation rolls around, I discover that I've fallen in love with the idea of my boyfriend instead of the real deal?

<B>Undergrad</B>

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Dear Undergrad:</B> Believe it or not, some couples don't live together before marriage and still manage to have happy, compatible lives. But you do have a legitimate concern about how little time you've spent in each other's company, and your articulation about "falling in love with love" might be accurate.